God in
Eden instituted two wonderful institutions that should be upheld by man, Marriage
and the Sabbath. God gave a commission to man regarding marriage, He said “go
into the world be fruitful, multiply and subdue the whole Earth. With this
commission came sex, which is the only process human procreation was made
possible. God not only made SEX a means of procreation but also bestowed a
certain degree of pleasure to it. God wanted man to feel at eas This joy is a lesser joy God felt during and
after creation of all things. God declared he found favor and satisfaction in
all things he created. God felt this joy before the fall of Man.
e and also to
understand always that he alone is the creator of all Man-kind. God wanted man
to have a strong joy whenever he engages himself in the act of procreation.
Sex was
not given to man without conditions. Adam and Eve becoming the first married
couple on Earth (a wonderful marriage God himself was the priest) earned the
right to partake in this gift through marriage. We see Marriage before sex in
Eden, a perfect example for us to emulate.
Sex should
not be taken casually. It is a thing of the mind, physical and spiritual
states. God designed and gave this gift only to married couples, they alone has
the right to enjoy this gift. Why married couples alone? What maybe the reason?
Psychologically, sex affects the mind set. It destroys rather than keep in
unity relationships that are not joined in marriage. The truth is no healthy relationship
exists for unmarried couples once Sex is involved. Girls are always at the receiving
end of the line. Guys tend to see a girl who gives in to their advances as
irresponsible. They will not tell the girl since they still cherishes the
unhealthy sex. The mindset is totally changed and evil slowly creeps into such
minds. No wonder we can proudly say that fornication is not only a sin against
God but against oneself. No girl retains any degree of pride once she gives up herself
and no man will look upon such girl as responsible. This is not a lie for in
our societies there are many who carry bad names because of their lifestyle. Such
people lose their voice in the society and their sins are quickly pointed out
when they become provocative.
Sex was
given to man as a binding glue, to bind husbands and wives more tightly. Used on
the wrong surface (unmarried couples) it destroys not only our physical and
mind states but also our relationship with our creator. Sex involves exchange
of body fluids, this seemingly non reasonable process secures the woman into
the husband. Jesus said what we view as two individuals (husband and wife) are
in fact one flesh. God made it so married couple will become one from the beginning
just like our first parents.
The music
and film industries have presented Sex as simple, casual and with no meaning. My
friend once told me of his willingness to pay for a girl’s transportation from
a far away city to my city just to have Sex with her. A few days ago before he
told me this he was asking me for monetary help. Now with a small amount in his
pocket he sought to disobey God with the strongest of a willing heart. He told
me this without any shame, maybe he thought I will applaud him for such evil
act he dimed normal. His statement is rampant within our male folks who in
their selfishness forgot God will one day judge us all. Girls either knows of
our selfishness or they are ignorant. Allowing a guy to have sex with you does
not show he cares, in fact it shows how wicked he is. Not only did he soil your
body but also caused you to transgress God’s beautiful law of love.
Jesus
wanted us to see how evil fornication is when he illustrated to his listeners a
mere desiring look on a woman is in fact fornication. Why? Because Sex before marriage
before God is too horrible that even the lowest in the Angelic heir achy abhors
the presence of such. Satan is ever tricky and knows how horrible a wrong appreciation
of sex is before God. He chose to arouse lust in men through today’s fashion in
the part of ladies. Remember a lustful look is a sin, this sin many commit
including you and I each day. Ladies walk half naked in the streets causing us
men to lust after them. Paul said any who will cause their brother to sin will
receive a greater punishment. When you chose what you where ladies be careful
it does not cause your brother to lust after you. As he is deviating from
Christ’s wish, you are already doomed for causing such deviation. Satan knows
if he can cause the women to dress seductively not only will the men sin
through lust but rape will become rampant. Many complain of rape when in fact
they opened the door through their mode of dressing.
The Holy Spirit does not dwell in a
heart that is filthy, He excuses himself from such heart since he is holy. Once
He leaves, the ever willing Satan will instruct his falling Angels to take
control of such a person, thus making it tougher for a rethink. Don’t give in
to the pleasures of the flesh but be more attuned with God then and certain
Satan will flee.
The ills
of Sex before marriage are huge, the guilt that heaps on one once the act is
over is much, much than one who is yet to indulge in such evil will comprehend.
A friend told me of how he pushed a girl he happily welcomed into his house a
few minutes ago out of his house after he had sex with her. The guilt was too
much” he told me. He regretted inviting the girl over to his house. At that instant
a healthy friendly relationship was quashed because of misuse sex. In my mind I
wondered how the girl who from all ramifications was the one that lost greatly
must have felt. Imagine the extent of guilt she must have felt. Regrets and
hatred must have clouded her mind.
We are
carnal and more prone to sin but God made provisions for us. He provided a way
for us to learn more about Satan and his evil schemes. He also provided a way
for us to learn of his love and promises. The scripture is the only way to
learn effectively all that we need to resist the Devil. Not only did he make
his words available to us, he also gave us a strong connection with him. A life
of prayer will always maintain unshaken connection with God. Let’s ponder
together! What would have happened if my friend knelt in prayer when the temptation
became strong? The mere sight of a bended knee would not only cause Satan to
flee but a sense of guilt would have clouded the girl, bringing her out from
the mouth of Satan’s snare. He would have been a conqueror that day.
One thing
about sex outside marriage is its ability to trigger other sins. Sex outside marriage
is a chain reaction sin. It always leaves its ugly mark no matter what we do to
clean it. David is a perfect Example. Neglecting his role as a king was taking
what should have been a pleasant evening walk on the roof f his palace. Meanwhile
the host of Israel was busy fighting in battle. David as the king should have
been among his men but he chose not to. First
David neglected his duty and then he was idle. An idle man is a good work place
for the Devil. Many a times we find out sex outside marriage is often between
idle minds. You can never be busy and at the same look towards sex. If only
David was at the battlefield he would have avoided the coming temptation. Avoiding
sex must first start by engaging self with work or sport whenever the body
begins drifting away. Prayer and the Bible is another sure way of getting
closer to God and his heavenly will.
David
saw Bathsheba who belonged to another man. Immediately the whisper of the evil
one came creeping into his mind. Bathsheba naked body caused the King to keep
staring at her. David forgot he was instituted by God to rule over the land of
Israel. He called her into his chamber and committed adultery.
Then came
the next sin as the chain begins to unravel. David caused Uriah’s murder in
other to protect his image when he found out Bathsheba was pregnant. How many of
our young girls have committed abortion, killing that which they cannot create.
First David committed adultery, to cover up his sin he became a murderer.
David’s
lustful look which gave him in to murder brought judgment on his head. “The
sword will not depart from thy house” prophet Nathan told him. David’s episode
should be a lesson to us all. Though David’s sins were forgiving he still
served his punishment, this is because sexual sin is not only a sin against God
but a sin against our body.
We must
learn to present our body to God a holy living sacrifice. “Don’t you know your
body is the temple of God”? Create in me a new heart and renew thy Spirit
within me, this should be our constant prayer. Pray always for God’s Spirit to
dwell within us. we should always remember the sin of sex outside marriage is
too dangerous to meddle in. it is a temptation from Satan and it can come to
any. What can separate? Us from the love of God” Paul asked.
like David’s punishment many are living with
STDS though they have repented. Repenting might not take away your punishment
for we transgressed our bodies also. What about the unwanted pregnancies, it is
much more better we keep away from the misused of God’s gifts.
What about
the married ones who leave their spouses for another, are they among? Our illustration
using David is a screen that educates the married ones, they are not exempted.
Both David and Bathsheba were married. Paul said if you cannot hold thy self then
marry. He strongly advocated this when educating young Timothy.
This
same friend of mine trying to justify his wrong doing said” how can I get
married to a girl without first sleeping with her? How can I know she is not barren?
A courtship that builds itself around sex breaks easily. Men will tell ladies
to sleep with them in other to see if they are not barren. Ladies beware for
Satan walketh around looking for whom to devour. God gives children. It is not
of the couples but of God’s power to bless. Men are quick to convince but very
slow to keep promises, take heed ladies.
Let your
light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify your
father who is in heaven. How can we lead men to God when our acts point to a
different road. Many say the Spirit is willing but the flesh is weak yet they
forgot a life in God is stronger than the strongest rock, resisting the
strongest and strangest of temptations.
Some say
for one to effectively work for God he must be single. No! For the Bible did
not affirm to this. Peter was married yet he was an effective apostle. Get married
to avoid a misuse of this gift. Being single does not make one more righteous
than those that are married. Remember God created them man and woman.
A life
of Prayer defeats all temptations. What then will it profit you to gain
wrongful pleasures and destroy your spiritual and physical life? Enjoy sex the
way the creator made it, enjoy it with your husband and wife for it was
ordained for you married ones. Sex should portray God’s love.
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